Tuesday, December 18, 2012
While I love certain traditions, I firmly believe in mixing in some unique, some out of the ordinary as well. I like staying home with my immediate family on Christmas Day, but I also like visiting with the extended family and friends over the holiday season. Nothing is set in stone with me--I don't have to do this on that day or expect something to be the same because "that's the way we have always done it"--I just think that sets you up for stress. I think when you are hell-bent on tradition to the point of no room for change, it just limits you....and your holidays.
With this ever-changing world and definition of "family," I firmly believe in staying fluid. I don't want to set up expectations for those around me so that I'm disappointed or hurt if I don't see so-and-so on the 24th or the 25th. My thinking is who cares what actual day it is on the calendar? Why not celebrate your Christmas on the 13th if that is the day you can be together? And it's okay if we can't get together during the holidays this year either. All of that is just stuff that stress is made of.
Life is conflicting enough, don't you think? I mean, we have to make decisions each day as to what works best for us, and the holidays just seem to exacerbate the situation. I have a friend who is frustrated by the demands her family places on her, and she ends up saying "Merry effing Christmas" every year--half-joking...half-not.
Let's not stress each other out....nor ourselves. Be flexible in your plans and with those you love. Accept the conflicts of the season and go with the flow....it's the only way to survive and enjoy.